How to choose the right marriage partner (Part 8) -Place of Faith– Gloria Bamiloye
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PLACE OF FAITH
The first point to note when you are asking for the right partner in marriage is to determine to walk with God by faith because you want to enter into a covenant with God . when you enter into a marriage relationship without consulting God ,it means you are not ready to partner with God in the journey .
These are the people who bring whoever they desire to God for him to bless Anyone who desire the will of God in marriage must be ready to walk by faith and when you are praying for the will of God ,you must believe and trust God .
You must make up your mind to accept whoever the Lord will lead you to marry by Faith .
Faith has to do with TRUST. Absolute and total trust in God that he has the best for you That God has your interest at heart and that he knows the best helper for your life because his thought is good towards you Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord , thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.
It does not mean the best will be perfect in nature or character ,you may notice some behavior or character in him or her that you may not like .
But once it is the will of God ,you are to be his or her helper to complete whatever is lacking in the persons life as you receive him or her by faith despite the weakness .
God is a God of faith and without faith ,it is impossible to please Him. So many things will not move in your life if you don’t determine to walk with God by faith . Prayer is by faith ,because God will answer you according to your faith. Life itself is by faith because their are so many things we do unconsciously by faith .
MARRIAGE IS BY FAITH
Those who do not marry right also use faith because it takes faith to commit yourself to somebody you don’t know his or past and future . It is faith .
So if faith is that necessary ,it is better use profitably in God who knows your beginning and end and also knows whoever is right for you to marry .It takes faith to accept the will of God Luke 1:45 And blessed is she that believed: for there shall be a performance of those things which were told her from the Lord.
YOU GUARD YOUR CONVICTION BY FAITH
Your faith is very important because the enemy will fight your conviction about the person you believe is the will of God . This is because he hates you getting married to the will of God .He fears such couples because he knows the havoc they will do to his kingdom
That is the reason Satan always wait for every single brother and sister at the junction of marriage to confuse and deceive them to choose against the will of God so they can miss the helpers God has prepare for them in life.
Many people passed through life without receiving their helpers of destiny and they end up struggling in life . God did not create you.to be alone ,he said to Adam in Genesis 2:18 And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Adam has finished some of the major assignments giving to him at this time ,he has finished giving names to all the animals and he did not stop taking care of the garden .
He was already busy and one would think a helper should have been provided for him at that time . But it was after he finished all,that God said it was not good for him to be alone and he provided a helper for him.
It means ,the helper is primarily for him. Someone he would love and cherish . someone that will relieve him of stress and share his burden , someone that will meet his emotional needs and make his life complete and the devil does not want that .
He prefer you to marry someone that will add to your stress, that will make life difficult for you that will hinder you from fulfilling your dream or vision Satan does not want you to marry your God given wife or husband and so he struggle to hinder you from trusting God to receive from him .
But you must rise up in faith and insist to have the woman or man that God has prepared for you to marry .
After receiving the will of God you must determine to guard your faith and remain strong in your conviction about the will of God because satan will not step back because you have finally receive God’s will ,he will intensify his attacks to confuse you and to make you doubt what God is doing in your life
YOU NEED FAITH TO KEEP AND ACDEPT THE WILL OF GOD FOR YOUR LIFE .
So many things may come up to make you doubt what you believe God has given you. But you will overcome the lies of the devil by constantly reminding yourself of your initial conviction from God .
Do not forget what God reveal to you and what he says to you . The word you receive from him must be your anchor against every attempt of the devil to confused you .
You need faith in your God and his word to silence the enemy and to move on to the next phase of your life . That you have the will of God as partner is not the end of it .
You must fight to keep hearing what God said to you concerning your relationship.Psalm 62:11 KJVS God hath spoken once; twice have I heard this; that power belongeth unto God.
You must keep hearing God until you are fully strong in what God has said about his will for your life . You must not stop your prayers, study to know more from God so you can be very sure of the person.
It means your prayer must not stop until your home is established .Isaiah 7:9 KJVS And the head of Ephraim is Samaria, and the head of Samaria is Remaliah’s son. If ye will not believe, surely ye shall not be established.
There are so many things the Lord will show you and reveal to you about the person that will strengthen your faith when you are open to him And if the person is not the perfect will of God ,you will know in the process because it is possible to be wrongly attached ,and it is better to break with a person while you are still in courtship than in marriage .
You will know more in the place of prayer as you open your heart and desire to God . He is willing to help you
I faced serious battle when I eventually agreed and accepted to marry my husband . I was attacked with doubt and fear concerning the man .
It was so terrible that I dreamt.and someone was warning me in my dream not to marry my husband . The devil questioned my conviction about the man ,If I was sure the man is worth following .
Fear of the future ,fear of some lapses and mistakes he showed me in the life of the man especially whenever. I went to visit him .
I was overwhelmed with such thoughts . But I thank God for his presence as I always called on God for mercy and he would reminded me of his word. and my conviction
The man too always sense this reaction when ever i came to see him, he would jokingly asked me ,what the devil is telling me about him . And I would begin to tell him what the devil was saying ,
that he was not the right man any sensible lady should agree to marry and so many horrible things . he would just smile and negate those words with the scripture and we would pray .
I grew to be more prayerful and to study the scripture at this time and I became strong to resists the devil and the spirit of fear and doubt. Gradually I became strong to become a great helper and to fully understand the vision .
God also helped me seriously with so many revelations about the visions and the future of the ministry which I would also shared with him to assure him of my commitment to him . Many of what God revealed then is what we are witnessing today in our ministry .
God is a faihful God ,and he loves to help you when you are in any confusion if you humble your heart in his presence and you keep calling on him by faith to be fully sure of the person you think is the will of God for your life .
Do not hurry yourself to the altar if you are not yet fully sure or if you are not settle in your spirit . Isaiah 28:16 KJVS Therefore thus saith the Lord God , Behold, I lay in Zion for a foundation a stone, a tried stone, a precious corner stone , a sure foundation: he that believeth shall not make haste.
When we were singles ,in the college fellowship ,a sister entered into error and she messed up her life and her future. because she did not wait to be sure of the will of. God for her life .
A man of God proposed to marry the sister but every one in the fellowship was against the union Some were bold to approached her that the relationship was not the will of God . The man looked good and godly and he preached the word of God .
This sister was so sure and she refused to listen to anyone . She should have gone back to God and pray more because anything could have motivated her to accept the man’s proposal .
May be because of the spirituality of the man of God because the man was naturally gifted in the things of God .
The man of God eventually rushed the sister to the altar without the consent of her parent. But the marriage was the beginning of a very painful journey for the sister because the man latter revealed his true color and he wrecked and destroyed the glory and the plan of God for the sister .it was a very painful situation for everyone most especially her parents .
But do you know the situation could have been averted if she had listened to what the brethren were saying and humbling went to God with all her heart to know more about the man .
God is not a God of confusion ,he would have helped her to see clearly ,He can even reveal the secret of the man to her .
But she thought she has faith but it was foolishness.Psalm 37:4 KJVS Delight thyself also in the Lord ; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.
Your faith must be in God and in his word,not in your head,or what you see or perceive is right .When you love God and you fear him,you will sit with him until you hear from him because you trust him. You will not be. deceived because you have a Father who knows all things .
He will not rebuke you for coming into his presence. In fact he encourage us to seek his face. Psalm 27:8 KJVS When thou saidst , Seek ye my face; my heart said unto thee, Thy face, Lord , will I seek.
He reveal himself when you seek him with your hearts.and will lighten your darkness because you trust him with all your heart.
That is how to walk in faith and not in foolishness .
Don’t be in haste to go to the altar,but go in full assurance of God’s presence in your marriage .
Proverbs 3:5-6 KJVS Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.  In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
LET US PRAY
- OUR FATHER WE PRAY FOR ALL OUR SINGLE BROTHERS AND SISTERS THAT YOU WILL PLEASE TEACH THEM YOUR WAYS IN JESUS NAME
- HELP THEM TO BE PATIENT IN YOUR PRESENCE AS THEY SEEK YOUR FACE CONCERNING THEIR MARRIAGE PARTNER IN JESUS NAME
- STRENGTHEN THEIR FAITH AND HELP THEM TO TRUST YOU WITH ALL THEIR HEART.S IN JESUS NAME
- FATHER PLEASE GUARD THEM AGAINST VISION KILLER AND DESTINY DESTROYER’S PARTNER IN JESUS NAME
- PLEASE FATHER DON’T LEAVE THEM BUT DIRECT. AND GUIDE THEM FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR BEAUTIFUL PLANS AND THEIR GLORIOUS FUTURE FOR THEIR LIVES
- TO THE MARRIAGEABLE BROTHERS AND SISTERS ,RECEIVE YOUR PARTNERS. IN MARRIAGE NOW IN JESUS NAME .EVERY OBSTACLE AND DELAY IN YOUR WAYS ARE REMOVED BY FIRE IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS
- THANK YOU FATHER BECAUSE YOU HAVE ANSWERED OUR PRAYERS IN JESUS NAME . AMEN .